PS: about your earlier post somewheres, about "fantacising"...

I hear that for women, its about the feelings that this fantasy person evokes in you, not neccessarily the person themselves.

maybe you can try shifting the fantasy.

first, without wallowing in it, remember what it was about the fantasy about the other person, got you feeling good about it. Probably, it was the way he treated you, or talked to you, or...


then, imagine that your husband got hit by a personality changer, and started acting that same way towards you.

"but he'd never do that!!!"

well, funny thing.... this is a "fantasy". reality doesnt have to have anything to do with it ;\)

give it a try.


My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle