The spiritual thing is VERY hard. Here's why. You know God doesn't want you to be divorced. The family is THE central unit of God's plan! WHY would he ever want it broken up if there was no infidelity or serious abuse? He wouldn't, I assure you.

So, when she comes in and says she's received confirmation that God has told her it's OK to be divorced, what can you say? Any rebuttal is questioning her spirituality, right? You can't do that to her anymore than someone could do it to you.

HOWEVER, there is plenty of scripture that tells us in no uncertain terms that the Spirit will not manifest itself to us nor confirm that which is NOT true or good or praise-worthy.

So, if your W decides that she is going to ignore the words of Prophets that God has chosen to reveal his word, then she is fooling herself and you have no control over that. All you can do it deal with it. If you made mistakes in the marriage and you've tried to repent and make ammends and she can't forgive you for it, that is her sin. If she decides to ignore God's will for your family, that is her sin.

Yes, it sucks, no it doesn't make you feel any better, but it's the cold, awful truth. No amount of "spirituality" if used to rationalize wrong behavior will ever make the sin less of a sin.

So, you make sure you're right with God. Make sure your heart is in the right place. replace all anger with peace and forgiveness. replace all fear with faith. And YOU will be in the right place for Him to work on you. THAT is actually a nice consolation that will work to your benefit over your lifetime. \:\)

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...