Yeah, I guess I should have thought of a better name.
I can relate to your R with your WAW and your outlook on control. My WAW now says that she felt I was controlling everything even though I feel as though I never had a choice. I handled the finances, making appointments, etc. I tried many times to give up the responsibility of doing these things because they seemed to stress me out more then her. She was always focused on her career and never had time for that kind of stuff. One of our biggest agruements was started whenever I would say things like "what are your priorities? it must be a nice feeling to have someone taking care of everything." She would then get pissed and say that she could do that if she needed to, but never did. Anyway, any resentment I had before has since gone away when it comes to losing her forever. We, like u guys just had issues with communicating. As vague as that is for everyone on this board.
About the rest of your post. You should read the book "Getting the love you want". Great book about why we choose the partner that we do. Which explains in detail what your C was talking about.
