Wow, guys... thanks for the kind and supportive words. It really means a lot to me.
H: I agree with EVERYTHING you wrote. Ditto. I have indeed placed her far too high on the pedestal. She's comin' down!
Rob: I have read DR twice, and in it Michelle encourages the reader to "lovingly detach." But I didn't expect it to be so difficult. Thanks for the warning about the ebb and flow. I will expect it now. And I have indeed become far too dependent on my feelings for my wife to achieve happiness. I CAN do it on my own! And I have time. Although she has rattled her sabre, she has not yet filed. I expect her to do so in the next 30 days, though. Then I have about 6 - 8 months to further detach, and see what happens.
Three sessions with my DB coach (Jody) have helped enormously. I highly recommend to anybody the use of a coach. I know, it ain't cheap. I kicked it around the idea of doing it for about an hour. Then I glanced up and saw the photo hanging in my office of my kids and I was convinced that it was the right thing to do. I am doing it for them. If it were just us, I would have been gone long ago.
