Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Trixi]

Telling him to 'man up' would more than likely tick him off royally and prompt more of "quit mothering me." Followed with all the "reasons" he needs to go....He is pretty withdrawn right now- I don't think pushing him would endear him to me.

I do totally agree, though, that he didn't actually "try" while he was sticking it out. I will say that last year I think he was trying (on and off) and we were having a great time. But then the time together would decrease. I have pointed out the correlation as I see it-more time= more love. He sees it as him trying and then the feelings mysteriously disappearing and then the time diminishing. And who knows, maybe that is what happened-I don't know what was in his head.

W/regard to combining the 15 hours UA with him moving--what would that look like? I have already told him that I'm not standing in his way, but I'm not going to "help" him either. That this is totally his decision and he can be the one to do the work.