PS: "sticking it out for the kids", is a very very different case than "working on your marriage".

"sticking it out", is just sitting there and suffering.

"working on your marriage", is actively trying to make it better

Betcha he wasnt doing that "for years", at least in the last few.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle