Mrs CAC, Heres is acts of service. She goes out on a limb doing things for me (like going out and buying all the provisions for my upcoming trip to Oshkosh -- I'm going to camp with two of my sons, she's staying home with the rest of the brood). Her "servicing" me orally is feeling like an AOS to me, and that is sort of killing it for me. It's pretty obvious that it isn't at the top of the list of things she wants to do but she does it because I like it. The problem is, to me AOS doesn't do anything for building intimacy, in fact most of the things she does are in the background, not with me. AOS and gift giving are the LL's I scored lowest on. AOS is also very hard for me to pull off. I haven't noticed more than a small difference in her when I do AOS for her.
Another issue compounding the lack of intimacy is that I seem to be developing ED. As a result I am becoming even more gun shy when it comes to initiating because I don't know if the equipment will be able to keep up. This shouldn't be happening, as I am only 46, and am in better physical shape than I've ever been before.
