He's still with her, and I'm moving on (part 2)...

[Hope_11]

OW doesn't sell used cars by chance, does she?

Close...not cars...but she works in sales. It's all about her, no matter how many lives she destroys on the way.

Of course he put up the $$ for his "soul mate" because at that time there were no negatives, and he had no experience with a manipulative-type.

Exactly, it looked better to be with this OW because he could still be great. To me and everyone that new about the affair, he would be the guy who cheated on his wife. He had absolutely no dating experience, let alone the manipulative kind. He's paying the price.

This is how SHE made sure that he would not have second thoughts or try to reconcile with you.

Everytime he tried to reconcile with me, it would last a few days and then all sudden he changed his mind. According to him it didn't have anything to do with this manipulative b$tch playing him like a puppet. She cared about him and he respected her because she would always say do whatever makes you happy. He's never once mentioned that he cared about her.

I'm not trying to excuse his behavior--he's not a good guy, period. But I do think he was a little naive, easy prey for such a conniving woman.

Yes, he was very naive. He's not a good guy, but if this conniving b$tch wasn't making tracks for her great life with him after weeks, this never would have blown into this. Him and I might have been able to salvage our marriage. I blame the affair on both of them, but I blame not giving our marriage a fair, second chance on her. She never would back off and everyone knows the affair is an addiction. He can't break the addiction. My mil hates her and says that she will never ever be a part of her life...now maybe everyone can see why. OW played him and he is paying the price because he is not man enough to suck up his pride so he is living in h$ll instead. One tm that I read that she sent him in January when she found out he was going back to me (this is after knowing each other for 3 mos) said this farm isn't going to the be same without you, we were going to raise our kids here. WTF...Who talks like that after knowing someone for a few months and knowing that he is still married and in love with his wife?

Now, when he talks to his family, he says he is sooo lonely. Oh know, if OW was soooo great, why would he be lonely? Maybe he should have thought of that before he walked over top of everyone in his family. If she was great, he and I would be D by now. She's not...she's a terrible person and he knows it. Why else would he be dragging his feet on D me after he has been involved with her for 8 months. During the last big fight, I told him that I hope you know you are making the biggest mistake of your life....a good woman wouldn't do this and a good man wouldn't either. Maybe they are a match made in heaven. My H is very selfish and OW has to be too; otherwise, maybe she would see that she destroyed not only a marriage but his life. She can't seem to see that through her rose-colored homewrecker glasses. Everything looks great to her...why wouldn't it...she got a man to leave his wife and move 3 hours away for her in a matter of weeks. I hope she gets what she really deserves and it's not my H.