Even with my recent enlightenment and SL improvements, I still find myself feeling like Mrs. GGB sometimes. I will take care of cac because I know he wants it and I really don't. I think my attitude is different about that now, though, because doing this for him is much more about loving him than about simply scratching his itch. He will offer to reciprocate, of course, and I could take him up on it, but for various reasons, I sometimes don't.
I recently re-read "The Five Love Languages" and re-confirmed that my primary LL is quality time. I have observed that I DO desire cac (and it's a fairly strong desire) when I have been spending quality time with him, such as being out to dinner with him or out at a friend's house. I also feel desire for him when we've been discussing/arguing about our M, and have surprised him by initiating a few times. It's the interaction that I crave with him that I don't get as often as I would like. We have to work on that.
So, what is Mrs. GGB's LL? Have you observed any changes in her desire when she is feeling loved in her love language?
