It's going to take time to learn to trust again, however, not making light of it, but it was a one time deal. I would say have her move back in immediately or you may end up w/ her thinking maybe SHE doesn't want to work things out.

If you truly love her, you will be able to deal w/ this and get on with your M. However, like I said, I wouldn't be doing too much blaming, taking your anger out on her, etc., or she may decide it's time to move on. Just my opinion.

Read "After the Affair." If you want to stayed married, start working on it NOW. Don't take a bunch of time feeling like the victim. Yes, it sucks, but coming from some of us that have spouses who DON'T want to work things out, we know what it feels like to want to forgive and work things out, but don't even get the chance.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10