The way he tells it, the attempt to find the emotional energy is 'trying'.
he's being a baby. or, best case, a teenager.
Teenagers dont do laundry/homework/cleanup/take out trash, because "i dont feel like it".
Adults say, "this needs to be done. so, i'm going to do it".
Dont accept his 'emotional energy' garbage. "call him on it, next time it comes up.
It's not about muscling up enough feelings to do stuff.. it's about DOING stuff, to GET BACK feelings!
Very good points. Maybe difficult to implement given the two parties probably haven't been acting like adults for a long time. We don't like to admit it, but each of us has acted immature and childish - that's a big reason why we're here. So, we all kind of need to look at those statements and get to work. Thanks for the insights!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
