I'm mad at your M counselor: she sounds like she ought to be forced, in the afterlife, to walk a coule of billion miles in the shoes of all the people whose lives she's ruined.
I agree... I am not thrilled with my W's counselor. I feel how she has counseled my W has been irresponsible. Then again I cannot blame her for all of this mess. My W is not dumb, she has made her own decisions, mind you with bad counsel, but the decisions that she has made are hers to own no one else. That said I still miss and love my W.
Last night I went to our churches mid-week service. Because I have been GAL I haven't been to church in the last couple of weeks. It felt good getting back in church.
While at church last night I ran into my W's friend(the one that had 2 A's) husband. The year before all this mess started we got to know him and his W well and where becoming good friends with them. Because of the sitch and since his W is more my W's friend I have stayed away from talking to him or his W. Last night for the first time in months I stopped and talked with him for awhile. He tells me his M is on the rocks again. He does not know about the 2A's so he feels that his W is in some kind of funk. I do not feel I have the right to talk to him about his W's A's but at the same time I want to help and support him. He is going to be starting C'ing this week and soon him and his W are going to be doing MC. I hope/pray that their M does not end like mine is. He also has two kids and living in a broken home is not good for them either. The one thing that he is having a hard time with is seeing his part in their M's hard times. He is a great guy but he is having a hard time seeing his part in all of it. He also mentioned that he feels my W is indirectly influencing his W through our D. I believe we are going to start talking and hanging out a bit again, which is good, though I worry how this is going to make my W feel.
I also say my IL's at church. My MIL gave me a big hug and did not want to let go. I also gave my FIL a hug and asked how they where doing. I will see them again on Friday since I need to pickup my girls from there house while my W is working. I know it is a reality of D but it still sucks losing my relationship with my IL's.
I have not mentioned the dog in a while but my W is ready to get rid of her. She is puking and crapping all over the house today, W just called to inform me of this. I warned my W that the dog would bring on unneeded stress. But now my W is stuck with the dog because D5 loves her. She really is a good dog but nobody has time to train her. I really do not think it would take much time to train her but I am not with her enough and when I am I have my girls, they get my attention not the dog.
