I know in my case it would be too soon to throw anything into the rumor mill. My H already knows that while I am "accepting" his decision that I still love him and stand for the marriage.

When I talked w/my MIL the other day, I did say that he and I were best friends and I was hopeful that one day he would come back.

I know that when I have called him on the carpet for not actually *trying* everything possible, his explanation is that he just couldn't find the emotional energy to do it. The way he tells it, the attempt to find the emotional energy is 'trying'.

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing