The advice your received about regaining those "in love" feelings for your H are good...BUT...they are really for later...you can't step up and be his physical partner until your head and heart are clearer of the other man...it is just now going on 2 weeks...you need to give yourself time to grieve this loss...to not feel that each day is a loss without him...to give your time to stop feeling that you NEED him...it will come...just focus on your H and his good qualities...work on becoming his friend again...this is the way back...you can't leap all the hurdles in the race at once...you have to take them one at a time and you can't skip any of them...
Hurdle 1: Getting OM diminished in your mind/heart (make sure and delete ALL momentos of him or this won't work) Hurdle 2: Focusing on your H's good qualities and really appreciating all he has to offer you Hurdle 3: Becoming friends with your H Hurdle 4: Putting your heart into your M Hurdle 5: Start making the move to a physical relationship with H...this will be a big a hurdle for you because of the time that you and H have spend neglecting this part of your marriage...but it CAN be fixed!
Sandi...journal your feelings here...post here at least daily to keep your supporters active here with you...you can do this...
