Okay CVA. I understand the confusion. The need for him to back off is because his need to control me is one of our main issues. By backing off it shows that he is able to relinquish this. This is very important to us regaining equal footing in the M. As far as putting me ahead of these other people in his life this is not something that will happen right away. The best way for him to show me this right now in the present is to let me have my space, as much and as long as I need it. This would show that he is putting my needs above his own. Because LBS generally are reluctant to give the WAW the space they need. Not sure if this makes sense? Best way I can describe it.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
