Was there any signs that you noticed when your spouse was having an affair? I know I have read it can be very different for men and women. I am married and I do suspect that my husband may be having an affair. I did confront him on this and if he is now he is doing a good job of hiding it.
First off I have tried to look real close at his actions and recations. If he thinks I am looking into anything he is doing he gets angry. He has said he is sick of being treated like an 8 year old. He gets angry with me so easy. He for awhile has started going to his friend's house sometimes like 4 days a week. It is only for like an hour and a half. So if he is going to see a woman she sure isn't gettting much time.
Couple other things I found out he registered at a dating site. He had been e-mailing two girl's very explicit e-mails. He sent a picture of himself and told them lots of identifiable things about himself. (like where he works, what shift, about where he lives, name, how many kid's) He said he was in a very troubled marriage. We weren't even fighting at all during this time. It was mainly this one girl he was writing so much to. But he told her he wanted to meet her. I confronted and told him I had installed a key logger and knew what he was up to. I cried he came after me and told me he was just being stupid. He looked me in the eyes and swore on his kid's life that he has never had sex with anyone and was not having an affair. He said he was just being stupid and felt like crap about himself. He was very down on himself and said he just doesn't know what is wrong with him. But he told me that he would never jeopardize what he has with me. After all that talk to me and swearing on his kid's life. He got up the next morning and went to the public library and e-mailed her. He told her his wife had found out about him e-mailing her. But that he just couldn't get her explicit picture out of his head and wanted to meet her. He asked her to please e-mail her number and he would contact her and give her his number. She wrote back and accidentally sent it to the e-mail account I had the password for. So I found out that next day and confronted him in a way that really made him feel stupid. I recounted everything he said to me. Then I said you love me to right. He said yes honesy with all my heart. Then I sprung it on him and recounted every word he had wrote her.
He was better for like 2 months after that. He showed lots of affection and was a lot nicer. Then I found a number in his wallet that said it was his friend's. But it was wrote with a *67 in front of it.So I asked oh did he change his number. He then said it was this girl's from work. She is married herself and she just gave the number because she was leaving from working there and they had become friend's. I said that is fine but why the *67 and saying it is your male friend's number. He said he ws afraid I would be mad. Now he is calling her. He got very angry when I asked him why kind of. He told me he was planning a surprise for me and had to talk to her to get some information about it. Funny thing is to one time it shows he called her and I have found out now that when someone cals the cell and hits *67 it shows that our number just called itself. So she calls back I am assuming right after within one minute that he called her this one night.
Am I being paranoid? Is there a clear cut way you can catch your spiuse or know for sure?
