Hope the traveling and being away is doing you some good -- that you're making the most of it.
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I wont get caught up in the call/no call stuff when it comes to my kids.
I completely agree with you on this one -- this should be a non-negotiable for you. They are your kids and are old enough to value and appreciate your constant contact with them. They need this, as do you.
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Mentioned to oldest son last night that I wanted to go to Church sunday and if no one else wanted to go, would he like to go w/ me. He is clearly focused spiritually, as last night evidenced. I said, OK, well, lets see if mom/anyone else will go. "OK Dad!"
I'm not sure if my judgement is correct on this, but maybe you should stay away from asking W to join you guys. I don't know your history with attending church as a family, but it sounds like W needs space, and asking W to go to church could be a little dangerous/uncomfortable because a) marriage issues sometimes arise, and b) it is time where W isn't getting the space she needs. I may be off on this, but I've been following your thread lately and it just seems like a possibility.
I also agree that getting an apt for now would be the best -- I here you about it being a little cramped for the kids when they're around, but one way or another it is only temporary, and shows both good faith and a willingness to give W her space.
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No questions about my day or how my trip was going. Oh well
I can empathize with how frustrating and bumming this is. My W hasn't asked a single thing about me, my day, things I'm doing, etc, in 8 months. Just stay upbeat, happy, confident, cool, etc, and she'll begin to wonder and maybe even surprise you with a question about your day!
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I think I did a pretty good job tonight, probably the most detached while being upbeat I have been.
Awesome! Keep it up, CVA -- you'll get used to it and will begin to feel better for gaining this self-control! It will work, but will just take more time than you're likely hoping for.
