It is so sickening how our spouses think that they have found their "soul mates" and are giving up everything for them. My H told me that he was moving in with OW. She is hesitant about being step-mom, they have known each other less than a year, have had the full blown affair for about 6 months and they are perfect together and are going to live this happy life together. YUCK! I am so sorry that you are going through this as well. I just don't get it. Why do the spouses thing this is all okay. They have lost their minds. Take care.