This is a big and important conversation and decision, and ideally i would recommend that you speak rather than try to solve the situation on e-mail. E-mail is so easily misunderstood, and especially with an MLC there is so much room for misinterpretation. So I wouldn't insist, but I might suggest something like, "I'm sure we can find a solution together that will be best for the children and will work for each of us during this time. Is there any time we can chat about it though? I think it would be easier to brainstorm and dialogue a solution if we spoke." The if that works out I would use the opportunity to be as soft spoken in tone, and as helpful and cooperative as possible. Be reassuring and set a goal of having it be the least disruptive for the children especially, but also for each of you. Ask questions rather than making suggestions or giving advice, whenever possible.
My two cents. Good luck! This is an important opportunity to showcase your DB skills! :-) I haven't read your sitch and thread, but I hope this is helpful!
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