All I can say is I would try if she is willing. My H and I have been married about the same time as you. He has been having an affair since 10/06 and has never given us a real chance to see if we can work things out. He will not get away from OW long enough to even start to think straight. I was willing to forgive him and offer him a second chance, he just wasn't man enough to take it. If you believe that your wife is having no contact with OM, I would definately see if you can salvage your relationship. Like you said you have a lot invested and you still care about her. It is a lot to throw away over one stupid night. I just wish my H acted more like your wife, I might be in a different spot.
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