My wife and I have been married 6 years. Like how life goes we have been through tough times and great times. We really havent had serious marriage issues per se. (until now) At times there has been things that we needed to work through and we did. We have been through some tough family and health issues as well together...and grew together from it I thought.

I recently found out my wife came in contact with a old friend she had known before marriage and one thing lead to another and she had a one night stand with him. She claims she has had no contact other than this one night and would never even think about it again

She immediately knew she was wrong from what she told me and even ended up at her mothers house that same night confessing what she had done. She told me the next day

She's ended up moving in with her mother while things are decided. She says she really wants to try and work things out. She tells me she knows what she has done is wrong, immoral, damaging to me, and something she knows I may never forgive her for.

She wants no further contact with this guy and claims she is willing to do what is needed to try and work things out. counseling, talking through it, taking the time and effort to earn my trust back, etc

obviously Im hurt, mad, feeling betrayed, wanting answers to questions that will take much time to get answers for etc..

I dont know how im going to feel months or years from now. I have no idea how I would deal with the fact of what she did. time will tell. Its been too soon for me to possibly know at this point

However, I can honestly say at this point I still care about my wife. even with what has happened - I dont have it in my heart at this moment to just say "screw it" and not try and see if things can be repaired. She tells me she knows she basically screwed every thing up and if I dont even want to talk to her again she knows it was her that screwed this thing.

I know there are no guarantees. I know things may not work out.

We have no kids and I know that I havent been perfect in this marriage thing either (never cheated or anything like that though) yet I know that is no excuse for what she did and I cant blame myself for her action...and dont

I guess im looking to hear from people that have gone through this. Did you work things out? Some people tell me Im wasting my time and some tell me that if you both really...really want to work things out that in time...it may happen. Im feeling I have to go with my gut on this. We've invested so much in a life together that I think its at least worth it to see what can be done