I really don't want a divorce, but I am just going through the motions right now. I am trying to keep busy and not think too much about what happened. H. seems to be trying really hard to make things right, but it is going to take a long time.
You've been hurt in the most devestating of ways. It will take time. If he is truly sincere what have you got to lose by working it? Look at it another way, if you were to get a D, you'd have all this baggage to take with you into another (if you chose at some point) R. If you're going to do that much work why not do it with this M? I (unfortunately) don't have a crystal ball to tell you what's best for you. I do believe you will make your own best choice.
I appreciate you kind words and the encouragement that my H doesn't want to leave. Up to the time he takes that card off the table though, I have to respond accordingly. That just means DBing my butt off and GAL.
I don't remember if you said or not, but are the two of you seeing a C (either together or seperately)? Personally I talk with a DB coach (H at least had his own C and isn't interested in a MC) and I find it really helpful. Just a thought.
