my wife /my room mate

[Yoyowife]

OC said, "It has definitely given me new insight. I have started dating women(just lunches). Nothing serious just enjoying the opposite sex and realizing that there are hundreds of beautiful people out there if my sitch doesn't turn out how I prefer. I am really enjoying my free time and must admit I kind of like it. Of course dating is a personal choice everyone has to make. My wife is constantly w/ OM so I am comfortable enjoying the company of nice individuals of the opposite sex. Since she refuses to treat me w/ any respect or even civility, I can get it elsewhere."

Husband,
I met a man at a wedding about 2 weeks ago. He was very nice and we went boating with other friends the next day. He lives about an hour and half away from me. I really enjoyed his company, but I haven't seen him since that day. I wasn't sure I was ready for that.

My concern is that if I did start seeing him or someone else my H would start accusing me of wrongdoings. AR is not a no fault divorce state so I will probably use the adultery against him to make sure our settlement is fair. Right now what he is offering is so lopsided on his side. So I'm thinking if I start casually seeing someone the court would say how can I blame him? I hope this makes sense to you.