my wife /my room mate

[Dr LOve]

I agree with Matilda, I got a gift because I wanted to. Just like if I was close to a co worker I would get them something.
BUT..,... DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN. Like You I did not need anything I would have preferred something but Hey that's not what gift giving is about.
Husband

[saffie]

Thanks husband.

Yep that is my worst Half with me!!!

It is nice to get to see what everyone looks like

Saffie

[Dr LOve]

Hey saffie,

Did you adopt your children? If not you sure don't look like you had 4 kids. You look like you could be their older sister.

Husband

[Matilda2]

Hi husband. My new thread is "waltzing again"

What is the next GAL activity that you have up your sleeve? What about taking gourmet cooking lessons?

[Dr LOve]

Matilda,

This weekend its a me weekend. I am going out to shoot some pool. (Maybe the skinny dipping lady will be there). I am going to call my best friend from High school to see if he wants to meet with me. Then after a few beers I may go across the street to "fin bar". It's a club with dancing.

Thinking about looking at getting a boat again. I sold my last one before my son was born to buy my W a car. (What a dumb reason if only I knew)


Husband

[Yoyowife]

OC said, "It has definitely given me new insight. I have started dating women(just lunches). Nothing serious just enjoying the opposite sex and realizing that there are hundreds of beautiful people out there if my sitch doesn't turn out how I prefer. I am really enjoying my free time and must admit I kind of like it. Of course dating is a personal choice everyone has to make. My wife is constantly w/ OM so I am comfortable enjoying the company of nice individuals of the opposite sex. Since she refuses to treat me w/ any respect or even civility, I can get it elsewhere."

Husband,
I met a man at a wedding about 2 weeks ago. He was very nice and we went boating with other friends the next day. He lives about an hour and half away from me. I really enjoyed his company, but I haven't seen him since that day. I wasn't sure I was ready for that.

My concern is that if I did start seeing him or someone else my H would start accusing me of wrongdoings. AR is not a no fault divorce state so I will probably use the adultery against him to make sure our settlement is fair. Right now what he is offering is so lopsided on his side. So I'm thinking if I start casually seeing someone the court would say how can I blame him? I hope this makes sense to you.

[Dr LOve]

. AR is not a no fault divorce state so I will probably use the adultery against him to make sure our settlement is fair.

Yoyo, what a state with morals?. you know I never thought about any of this no fault crap. I was married and was not going to cheat anyway.
I understand compleatly. Walk the line until you are free. Don't give him ANYThING he can use aginst you. WE ARE IN THE RIGHT.

good luck

Husband,

P.S.

You might want to call this guy and let him know that you really enjoyed his company and that maybe when the D is final you all can do it agian.

[Ohio_Mark]

Matilda: I recall reading the eggs story on your thread. The only tradition we have for our anniversary is wild, passionate sex. The kind of sex she had last night with her lover. It will not happen in 2007 (well, it may for her (with OM), but I will not be having sex with anybody that evening).

And Saffie: In the unlikely event that my marriage does not work out and your marriage does not work out, I may indeed find myself on a plane to the UK for a visit. Just a date, mind you...perhaps tea... We need to proceed slowly now...

In the mean time, we both should continue to DB.

Mark

[Dr LOve]

Hey mark,

you are going to have to wait until after Saffie's California Vacation.
Sand, suds and snails......

Husband

[Yoyowife]

Husband,
Heck, I'd really never even heard of no fault divorces and fault divorces until all of this mess happened.

There are reasons why you can file for D in AR.
1. Separated for 18 mos. or more
2. alcoholism
3. drug use
4. insanity but you must be committed to a facilty
5. adultery
6. not meeting the necessary needs of a spouse (financial and such)
7. impotence
8. physical abuse
9. incarceration

About the only one I'm partly guilt of is #4 because he drove me to it, although I'm not committed. My lawyer thought it was odd in the divorce filing that they didn't state a reason. So I don't know what a judge will do with this. I can counter with adultery, but I haven't done this. I don't want to be the one to end our marriage, unless I have just done all that I can do and am ready to end it. My attorney is going to file for separate maintenance.