Waltzing again -one decision at a time!

[Yoyowife]

Mattie,
I'm so glad you started a new thread. I agree keeping your DD in the same school is a good idea. Trying to make new friends and get adjusted to a new school during this period of turmoil would be hard on her. My oldest DD started her first year of college last August about 2 hours away from home. In Oct. my husband moved out. It was so hard on her. Not only was she trying to adjust to be away from home and not knowing many people she was also blindsided with the fact that her Dad wanting a divorce. She was devastated. She came home every weekend and called just about every night saying how miserable she was. She seemed to let things get to her more than she used to. She even told her Dad she couldn't believe he decided to do this, her first year of college. She said at least little sister and Mom have each other. I'm up here by myself. Youngest DD had a hard time with it, but she had all of her familar surroundings, friends, and me to help her through it. My heart just wanted to break every time I talked to oldest DD. I blame my H for her hating her first year of college. She is not going off this year. She is going to stay and go to a local community college. I know this seems to be a lot about my sitch, but I just wanted to let you know what my experiences with my DDs were.

Hopefully, your H will agree to letting you keep the house until DD graduates. I've seen this happen in several cases around here. It's always in their divorce papers, just don't make a verbal agreement. If your H is resistant to the idea, I'm sure the judge will agree with you.