I am waking up at 3am worrying about the decisions I still have to make--a new job? new home? new school for D16?
Current job has been really busy which adds to my stress level. I said no to the first place I interviewed, but have another interview on Friday.
My niece (H's oldest brother's daughter) has been emailing me and has given me the child's point of view (her parents divorced when she was younger than my D). I told her D16 seemed to be handling things so well and keeps saying I need counseling more than she does. Niece said not to believe a word she says!!!! I suggested niece talk to H (her uncle) and help him understand how much D16 needs him in her life.
Also talked to BIL and SIL about D16. They are both teachers and feel she would be better off in the same school district no matter what she says about wanting to move.
SO, I plan to look for a job close to here and not move out of this school district. (job is for ME--one I will be happy with, plus one with health benefits). That way D16 and H have a better chance of staying connected.
I am going to reconsider trying to stay in the house. H and I will have to discuss that more! I don't want to own the house, but we could postpone selling it for 2 years until D16 finishes high school. H won't be happy if I expect him to move now, but he might just have to deal with it. More and more people are telling me that I should not bear all the burden since the divorce was his idea (especially surprises me that HIS FAMILY members are telling me this).
Making one decision at a time will hopefully help my peace of mind!
