25yrsmlc, wow. seriously, you are amazing to take the time to write all of that. once again, I find myself printing your post out to refer back to. I appreciate your support and sharing your own story with me. Its so funny, I'm so shocked still, sometimes I don't think I really understand that this actually happened/is happening, but then I hear from you and others here and you all just get it. and have lived to tell the tale.
its funny when you say that I am standing over his shoulder trying to put the pieces in the puzzle for him. my friend, a therapist, keeps saying something similar to me...that I need to let him take his own journey/do his own therapy, not do it for him. but its hard for me not to. but I won't, I will continue to DB, I will continue to GAL and do all the things I need to do to remind myself and him who I am. and sniveling isn't who I am.
I'll tell you, it felt good to know I've gone a full week (and more!) with no fighting. and actually LIKED myself again.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
