If you are not religious, it still pays to maintain your end of the bargain. Getting involved with someone else is doomed to failure, will muddy the waters and only cause more heartache.
Read all the resources here on MLC and try to find where H fits in. Join the midlife.com chat room for some excellent advice, especially from women whose marriages are restored.
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith