you're co-dependent. You identify yourself as HER HUSBAND. you've identified your happiness with her being there for so long, that you can't detach from that. You let everything she does send you straight into despair.
You're not her husband, you're YOU. You don't need her to be happy. Yes, you want her, you want to save your family, that is SO different. When you let yourself be happy without her around, it'll start to work for you. Until then, you are going to drive yourself straight to the nuthouse if you don't detach. you can do it. Just start thinking that way instead of how you're thinking. it takes a LOT of work but it comes along, just like learning any new skill.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
