I needed to talk with someone and now I am the bad guy because her secrets out.
It really is sad that many WASs don't see how their actions have hurt us because they are blinded by their own hurt. I can see how your W would be embarrassed about this, but it would be nice if she could see your need to talk with someone close to you about it. Unfortunately, she can't -- and btw, is was great awareness for you to just listen and validate her feelings about all of this. My hat is off to you there! You know what you have to do, and though you're extremely tired from all of this, you are strong enough to weather this recent storm and carry on. You are a model DBer, Dave!
Quick question I just thought of: What caused you to tell W about the fact that you had confided in your two friends?
It is flattering to get attention from OW (you animal, you!), but leave it at that until you're sure it it time to throw in the towel (and I can tell you from my POV it's not time!). I get flirted with pretty regularly during my dance nights, but never overtly asked out. Of course, they all know my sitch and where I stand with it. It's probably just the challenge that intrigues them more than anything...
