But if I know it's best to move on. And I have my grounds for divorce. No kids. Clean slate to work with. Why go back even if you could. Is the feeling of failure that great for everyone? I know i could be more compatible with alot of other people but that's not making it any easier. When everything points to reasons I should leave, what would make someone want to stay?
Wow...I couldn't have said it any better myself. I feel the exact same way. No kids here either. I do feel like a failure, but I don't know why. I still think that I was a good W to my H. I think that the reason that my H and I haven't reconciled is because he can't face his own demons. I would be much more compatible with someone else. My H and I are opposites, but I always thought we balanced each other out. I think that we stick around because no one wants to be rejected. We want our spouses to love us like they used to. We tolerate this craziness with the hopes that we will have a better life and marriage because we've been through this and learned from it. We tolerate it because we are some of the few people that value "for better or worse". We are living in the worse. We are good people. But I do believe that a time comes when we have to face reality that it takes two people to have a good marriage, not just one.
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