Details are tough to provide believe it or not. I came to a Dear John letter in June 06' She said I was angry all the time, overbearing and she also said that she felt she had nothing left to give. My response to her words to me are that she was right. Work stressed me out, I found some relief in going out on our boat. That pulled us further apart as she disliked the expense of that as well. Since the time she left, she has never wanted to speak about our relationship, and instead only about our seperation and pending divorce. She has a lot of anger inside that she never let out, and I was really unaware of the effects my actions had on her. I have follwed the DB principles and after much coaching, nothing has changed. I have burned no bridges with her and said nothing out of anger or frustration to her for the last year. I have agreed with her each step of the way. At this point, I still have trouble accepting that our marriage will soon be over and there was never a sit down talk or on the phone about our relationship. I have not pushed for one, and have been waiting for her to open up. I am all ears. I just wish I could get her to open up and let the anger out. I really feel that is the only way to heal. Maybe than our marriage can be saved. But as I mentioned one of the only things she mentioned was my being critcal, overbearing; the last thing I want to do is push...I just want her to stop running. To be more specific about being critical as an example, she felt things were my way or the highway. I know that her email says no response, but I was hoping I could come up with the words for one last email to tell her about how I have grown the last year with much counseling. And to keep the lines of communication open. My personal life has been great and in truth I have not been pursuing R I just want to keep communications open and for her to know that if she wants to talk about anything including hurt or anger I am ready to listen. She is a wonderful person and I feel so much guilt but I know that things could be great if only she would believe. Any thoughts?
