L just made a very good point about validating any progress forward that H makes. Hearing positive reinforcement for the things you appreciate about his efforts (i.e. the things he does "right" to bring you back) will give him more incentive to continue doing it. Don't be over the top about it, but subtle shows of appreciation can go a long way. L is also right that there will likely be steps backward as well as steps forward. It isn't a sprint to reconciliation -- it is almost always a marathon or even an ultra run.
