Why is she doing this? She's the one pushing to divorce so quickly. I've stated to her that I cannot change that decision but I do not agree with it nor will support it. But she is now just screwing with me on purpose. Why?
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
To make herself feel ok about doing it. Plain and simple. you can't take what she does personally, no matter how much it hurts. If you live and die by every action she takes, you will continue to be miserable. Give yourself a fighting chance dude, live your life and take care of the kids. Let her dig her own grave, because she's being freakin miserable to you and from what I know, you don't deserve it. Let her do her thing and you don't worry about it.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
But I don't get is why. She said she's done. Why hurt me more. How does hurting me more justify her actions?
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Somehow it does in her mind. It's like when you were in elementary school and the nice little girl broke up with you in 6th grade and then she and her friends made fun of you for a day. (wait, was that just me? ) It makes no sense but it's a mechanism to help her somehow feel better about herself. It's messed up, but let it mess her up not you. Good luck man, I know it feels like the end of the world, but it isn't, fortunately - we all need good long lives to get this straightened out for ourselves.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I'm about 2 hairs from quitting my job, taking my last remaining money and dumping it ammo and salt, packing my backpack and just disappearing.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Shows what kind of guy I am...I wouldn't take them away from their mom.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I'm shaking. I've had to go to the bathroom at work twice now to cry. I can't focus, I can't think. How can somebody you love so dear be so cruel?
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
You've been separated for a while now. I'm not even up on one month and I am starting to lose it.
I guess we each know our own spouse better than most and know when is enough. I am starting to get to the point where I don't know what do to myself.....but magically - that's when it happens and then I will know.
It's only a bad day for you this day.
Tomorrow is a different day.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
) It makes no sense but it's a mechanism to help her somehow feel better about herself. It's messed up, but let it mess her up not you. Good luck man, I know it feels like the end of the world, but it isn't, fortunately - we all need good long lives to get this straightened out for ourselves. 
