As another of the primarily LBS here, I want to thank you for really trying to hang in there, and for helping so many of us with your insights. Even though many of us are working hard to create a new, better R, it's such a reality check to read your posts and to better understand the lot of the potential WAS...especially when you are still trying!
I really hope your H is starting to 'get it'. But even if he does, it will likely be some small steps forward, and then some back. In all probability, it won't happen fast, or all at once. But if H starts to make some progress, maybe (with advice from your MC) there would be a good way for you to be able to validate that progress...I guess the trick would be to do it in a way that wouldn't result in H regressing into his habit of thinking things are 'ok' again...
