Thinking about you. Keep up the work. I think OT makes a great point about doing what is good for YOU, without worrying about your H or M. For someone like you who truly values their M it's easy to do things that are not going to really help DB. I know, I've done 'em and still find myself doing them from time to time... and I'm not even having to try to live with my H, don't even have to talk to him that often.
It might help you to get really clear on what YOU want. This was where I had one of my biggest breakthroughs, although it was hard work and took me weeks. My C had given me that as homework. I think what Michele teaches in Chapter 3 of DR is the same thing.
What do YOU want?
I challenge you to put the focus back on yourself. YOU deserve to do this for you. You deserve to love yourself. Even your M deserves this. Take great care of yourself. Don't worry about your H right now. He's a big boy, he can take care of himself.
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
