Let me add this too...if you are a guy who truly has a life, meaning a good career, a nice home and other comforts, fairly intelligent, a sense of humor, respect for the Almighty and just responsible in general you are a rarer commodity than you think and you will be extremely attractive to more women than you realize...
I truly believe that a good man as it concerns marriage is generally alot harder commodity to find than a good woman who respects the concept of marriage...with that said, if a woman comes to some sort of rationality, she will realize that a truly good man is a rare commodity and this is where a good man holds some leverage...at the very least, another woman, probably one that experienced first hand being with a cad, will appreciate an honest and good man with his priorities straight and it will make for a very happy and satisfying relationship where both will appreciate who the other person is...it all starts with a healthy self and healthy self respect because you cannot give it if you dont have it for yourself...rule one...
One Wish is pretty much doing these things for himself now...if his wife comes around in her way of thinking and dealing with her own issues which culminates in them going forward together then I know we all think this to be the best scenario...however if it doesnt work out that way, then he is doing the things that eventually will lead to a happy life with someone else...I commend him for his efforts...he is significantly younger than me and I wish I had his resolve and intelligence when I was his age...I didnt learn what he seems to have a good grasp of until I was about fifteen years older...better late than never I guess!
i want to add to this something one of our past church leaders wrote on this subject:
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The escapist never escapes. If two people, selfish and self-centered and without the spirit of forgiveness, escape from each other, they cannot escpae from themselves. The disease is not cured by the separation or the divorce, and it will most assuredly follow along in the wake of future marriages. The cause must be removed. Each is likely to carry into the next marriage all the weaknesses and sins and errors they have now, unless you repent and transform. And if you will change your life for a new spouse, why not for the present one?
We know divorce is not the answer, and if two people will let go of selfishness and work together to make improvements, good things will happen. And if you're going to work on being married, why not with your current spouse? What a profound idea?!?!?!?
One of my favorite quotes is from Soundgarden - the grass is only greener where the dog has sh!t.
Make the grass green on your side of the fence, another person is not the answer...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
