Kicking him off the fence

[saffie]

Olive,

If you are able to just stop and think about what you WANT to be the outcome. Do you still want to be married to your H? If he recommitted what would you need to change, (if anything), for it to work for you?

It's not all about the other persons needs and wants. Of course if we want to stay with them we want to make them happy and meet their needs but it does have to be a balanced relationship and you have needs to be met aswell. You are so NICE and that is who you are so you have to find a way that gets you to where you want to be but is one that you can live with for you and your daughter.

We are all cheering you on on here.

Are things better or worse than last week or last month? In what way have things changed?


Sometimes when I am quite low I have to try and focus on what I have achieved over a longer period. I also have to remember to pat myself on my back for the things I HAVE managed to do or achieve or change rather than beating myself up about those I haven't.

And above all RESPECT yourself. You are a good person

Saffie