Once you lose the fear...then your GAL efforts can be re-inforced with slightly increasing amounts of boundary setting.
Once the fear is gone -- you will have the insight and strength to perhaps help you husband change into version 3.0.
He may not change. Or he may.
Oh yes, once the fear is gone, you will be able to tolerate him while he decides about the affair while you GAL, because you are CHOOSING to tolerate it while you emerge into a powerful goddess. You are no longer living with his affair because you are afraid of losing him, you are TOLERATING it because you have other plans in mind that will lead to a better future for you, and perhaps your husband, if he becomes MR. 3.0.
