Just to be clear: I wasn't telling you to DO anything drastic today or tonight, or the next week. Take your time. If anything, time is on your side.
What I want for you is what I want for me: to lose the fear and realize that things can better FOR YOU with or without him. And that, if your husband should choose to wake up and join you in your happy new life, YOU get to decide if you want him.
The important thing for you to realize that:
You have much more power than you think.
Your husband isn't leaving anytime soon.
He's afraid to divorce you.
Not only do you need to change, HE needs to change too.
You hold ALL the cards. He's done his worst. It doesn't get worse for you -- only better.
OK....now stop and give thanks that you know you have power.
You are GAL not because you are afraid of losing him, but, because, you are excited about finding yourself and living life to the full.
Olive, I could envision you having a happy life with any one of us kilt-wearing, spandex-donning, cut-off short modeling dudes.
I can envision you having a great life with your husband, if he's up to the task of changing to catch up with your wonderful changes.
