Stew I am just catching up after some time away. Everything you are saying about her moving her stuff into the condo and unpacking is good news. I hope she is coming out of her fog/confusion. Is she seeing the IC yet and dealing with her possible depression?
Also, you may want to head off the judgemental spew coming from the family. None of them know what your W is going through or feeling and no one has a right to judge. I understand they are worried about her but she is an adult and they have to stand back and let her work this out on her own. Alienating her now, could cause her to backaway and withdraw completely. Maybe thats cynical but I really think if its possible try to get her family to back off before she does something out of spite that could cost her dearly in the longrun.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.