CDM34 from your last post, I can see that things could have gotten steamy from the OM POV. I can see opportunity and possibly motive from a male mindset.
What I didn't see in the posts you put on this thread, was that he thought you were all lathered up.
Yes, I can imagine the attention you felt was there, was exciting. That is a somewhat normal behavior of people who feel lonely or are missing something in their life. BTDT myself.
even when he literally begged me to let him come over to the house the other night while his W was out of town, I said absolutely not. He was begging you to let him come to your house? Well that is a step too far on his part.
It's good you said "NO" and if I was in your position, I would tell this guy you intend to put all of your energies, efforts, and time into your M, and you don't need any outside activities or influences to keep you from carrying out that plan.
I would say that you don't want or need his/your communications to continue in either direction. If he does communicate with you, you will forward the messages to his W and your H. Ask him to do the same.
Delia when I posted here, I was just doing a girly bonding kind of thing and trying to make Cades feel better. OK, I understand a little better now. I saw that girl-bonding thing lots of time on another LBS type of forum.
I can see how she might feel humiliated by the brevity of H's friend's message. Absolutely! I agree.
