Stew, You are doing the right thing, just let her be, thats the best thing you can do right now. Just focus on you, showing her the changes you have made, although it will take time for her to really see them. She probably isn't capable for very much right now. Take the baby steps where you can!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!