re; attactiveness. Getting A Life is the biggest kick in the pants in this area. As soon as I started to go out with a group of friends my self-esteem got such a shot in the arm, it was unbelievable. I really was able to truly detach as I realized pretty quickly that I would have my hands full the second I became single. Realizing there are thousands of women that would kill for a guy like me, (and you ) went a long way towards helping me grab my bootstraps and pull. It's a lot easier to think, I would prefer this not happen but if it does, I'll be okay..., when you really know this to be true. Some things you can't fake. The only way to be genuine in your GAL'ing is to actually GAL. I know you're doing this, I just wish a lot more of the folks on this board would do so as well.
Bingo!! This guy has got it down!!
Let me add this too...if you are a guy who truly has a life, meaning a good career, a nice home and other comforts, fairly intelligent, a sense of humor, respect for the Almighty and just responsible in general you are a rarer commodity than you think and you will be extremely attractive to more women than you realize...
I truly believe that a good man as it concerns marriage is generally alot harder commodity to find than a good woman who respects the concept of marriage...with that said, if a woman comes to some sort of rationality, she will realize that a truly good man is a rare commodity and this is where a good man holds some leverage...at the very least, another woman, probably one that experienced first hand being with a cad, will appreciate an honest and good man with his priorities straight and it will make for a very happy and satisfying relationship where both will appreciate who the other person is...it all starts with a healthy self and healthy self respect because you cannot give it if you dont have it for yourself...rule one...
One Wish is pretty much doing these things for himself now...if his wife comes around in her way of thinking and dealing with her own issues which culminates in them going forward together then I know we all think this to be the best scenario...however if it doesnt work out that way, then he is doing the things that eventually will lead to a happy life with someone else...I commend him for his efforts...he is significantly younger than me and I wish I had his resolve and intelligence when I was his age...I didnt learn what he seems to have a good grasp of until I was about fifteen years older...better late than never I guess!
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) went a long way towards helping me grab my bootstraps and pull. It's a lot easier to think, I would prefer this not happen but if it does, I'll be okay..., when you really know this to be true. Some things you can't fake. The only way to be genuine in your GAL'ing is to actually GAL. I know you're doing this, I just wish a lot more of the folks on this board would do so as well. 