mike, okay, I see what you were saying. and you are right about him probably not wanting to celebrate a marriage he no longer cares anything about. the only reason I even say probably, is the man is also the biggest narcisist I know, and life is all about what sounds good at times.
example, I found out on march 19 about the affair. my 40th was the end of april. we had planned to do something special, go someplace special. finally, after realizing that he wasn't ending the affair, I got myself together and planned a trip to visit a friend in florida over my birthday. when I told him about it, he asked if he could come. and yes, I'm serious. and no, we were not in a good place when he asked.
anyway, I'm going to go ahead and make my plans. I did respond...said:
"thanks. nothing definite, will let you know. just let me know any other weeks that might have a conflict."
so I kept it short. and will be upbeat and busy when he gets here today to see the kids. in fact, think I'm going to head to the gym as soon as he gets here. and won't mention our anniversary at all. it sucks, though. I just still can't believe the man I married, the man I chose to spend my life with, the man who always treated me like gold, has turned into the man he is now.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
