Tampa, how long were you separated and how long did you go dark? Thanks! (Sorry for the hijack)
I was separated twice in 2005...the first time for two months during the summer then again about two and a half months later from the middle of October until the beginning of February of last year...the first separation I handled very poorly and was too needy and meddling in my WAW's life...when she got back in the house in between the separations I was still too needy, subservient and a total doormat...it seemed I could not do enough for everyone and except for dressing myself and other basic bodily functions, everything I did was for everyone...total sacrifice of myself...the second separation I started out handling it as I did the first but finally got rational and decided it was not productive to conduct myself in this manner...besides, my self esteem had taken a hit to a new low and although I am a very imperfect human being, self esteem has never been a huge issue for me...I think between the beginning of November, 2005 and the first week of January, 2006 I only heard from my WAW maybe three times and saw her only once...in fact, between Thanksgiving 2005 right on thru the New Year there was maybe just one phone call or email during that time...check my thread for the details...it is a part of my life that I am trying to forget except for the lessons learned...I was probably the King of Darkness but I spent the time finding my self worth again and basically GAL in a very healthy and productive way which, in a way, the extended darkness facilitated that in a big way...I had the inner fortitude when the time came to put it on the line and do the right things in getting my marriage back...funny how God works if you just don't fight his plan!!!
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads...=5&o=31&fpart=1
