when to initiate sex after abstinence

[needlove]

I get that for men it is the physical portion. I think that's what attracts men in the first place. The whole Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus thing...

I don't think in a marriage the two are divorce from each other either. I do think both partners have to understand what each needs and try to fulfill those needs anyway they are able to.

In my particular case, I wish my H was more demonstrative outside of the bedroom. A touch, hug, kiss, etc would mean more to me than anything at this point. He needs to recognize that in part more of these types of actions may lead to a better sex life. And I've asked...

As someone with a low sex drive (H has a high) and I think as a woman there has to be some emotional connection. It can't be all about the act itself. Now, I'm not saying some hot primal sex isn't a bad thing. I just think in a marriage where two people are committed to each other it has to be a give and take.

As for my H, I'm not sure he's ready to accept I'm trying to change. We're being nicer to each other and maybe that's where we need to be. I'm suggesting a date this weekend to see where it goes. Last night H wanted to watch the baseball game rather than go to bed. However, he didn't sleep all the way over on his side last night either. And in a king sized bed I think that says a lot.

Baby steps...