Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Trixi]

After he got home we had a good talk. When he first came thru the door, I wasn't mopey or anything (I am sure he thought I would be) and I just asked if he had a good time, where'd they go etc. I was geniunely glad they had a nice time. I told him that his son called, that my daughter had called me after she called him to wish him a happy bday, an overview of the convo with his mom and one with my mother. Apparently his dad was starting to criticize me and my H stopped him dead in his tracks and said that since he wants to have a relationship with me (friendship or more) that he wasn't interested in hearing anything negative. That it doesn't help.

It was similar to the convo I had with my mom. My H and I agreed that while our close family is well-meaning (in that they want to see us happy, etc) they are too close to the sitch to help. That their unsolicited opinions have no relevance on the reality of our relationship and could be doing more harm than good.

He did tell me that he talked with his brother who started to give him a different perspective. Ultimately bro said he would support him in his decision; but he did challenge my H and asked him questions. He didn't necessarily agree that H was making the right choice. I could tell that whatever his brother said it made a crack in the veneer.

We went to bed (he's been back in my bed) and we watched some Leno while I rubbed his sore shoulder. I give him a bday "treat".

This morning, I came to wake him up and he motioned for me to snuggle with him.

I don't think it is going to stop him from moving out; but I also think that maybe he is starting to think that *maybe* there could be a chance for us.

I am still letting go as of this point.