Well, that's the point I think, you can't control what your spouse does. It is really sad that my W thinks Divorce is the only way. Instead of solving our problems, it'll make them permanant and make our lives worse (at least for a while) and will make S4's life worse forever (regardless of how we treat each other). Where if we at least worked on things a LITTLE bit, we could at least determine together if we should stay together or split up. At least that way, we'd have some common ground to go from, but she won't even do that, and that's her choice.
So, you either let this defeat you, or you work through it the best you can and pray that God will support you in your hour(s) of need. Fortunately I have a great family - that helps a lot. My wife has a great family too, so that will help her.
Today is our anniversary - 11 years. Unbelievable to me that it's over. It's so surreal - I never thought we'd be in this situation and the fact that my wife is doing this is even more surreal to me. She's such a sweet girl and to see her SO mad and so determined to end our marriage is a bit scary to me. I really hope she gets what she's looking for. Truly all I ever wanted was for her to be happy. I hope this makes her happy.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
