OT, you didn't even sound like yourself in that post! ;\)

Nikki, OT is right not to jump in to a decision, especially when it seems like your making the decision based on what you think you should do, and not what you want/need to do.

I'll check in again and finish reading.

Sorry for the crazy night you had, and good job appologizing for attacking him. He really needs to understand that it's not about any sparks. Love is a commitment and a choice. when you give more of yourself to a person, you will get more in return as a feeling. However, most WAS don't get that and so we have to "teach" them.

okay, hope your doing better, and definitely make the MC appoint. I know it's sooooo easy to let H comfort you when things are messed up, I did the same thing, but OT is right about H not respecting you right now and it's not giving him the right "feedback" (for lack of a better word).

take care Nikki, and definitely get back to Galing.

If you do decide to send him to another room...you could tell him that while he contintues to have association with OW you do not want him sleeping in the same bedroom. You do not consider yourselves M if both of you are not going to work on the M together. And if/when he makes that choice to put the M first and give you the respect you deserve, you would love to begin your M over again.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."